Our blog is the night; the posts, our dreams #AtoZChallenge

Yes: I am a dreamer. For a dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world. ― Oscar Wilde

I hesitate to share my dreams with people. You know, the nocturnal visions.

It’s embarrassing to talk about those dreams, because they show how vulnerable I am. They show what I truly fear, what I think about and do everyday, what I want to have in the next five years, what I don’t like in people, and what my most deplorable thoughts are.

That’s enough about me for one post.

Consider the analogy in the title. Now consider what I’ve said in the above paragraph. I can see some heads nodding: you recall that you have shared some, if not all, of your vulnerabilities on your blog. And hence, blogs are the nights, and posts are the dreams.

You may have written about the day when your kids achieved a goal. Or when the day they ate their first beetroot, after months of cajoling and hiding it in idlis and juices. You may have written about the day when you received some good news. Or the day you learnt how to cook that awesome dish which your entire family loved.

But you may not have written about the day when when you felt your kids were a nuisance. You may not have written about the day when you received some bad news. You may not have reviewed the book which you hated. You may not have added your view to a debate, only because you were afraid of the outcome.

There’s this eternal confusion in your mind: Should I tell the world that my kid doesn’t like to eat ladyfingers and gentlemen’s toes? Should I tell the world that I lost my job? Should I tell the world about my insecurities? Should I tell them about my shortcomings?

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Here are a few tips to help you solve the dilemma of: should I post this, or is it too personal to be shared with the world?

  1. Would you tell your family (or any other close relation) about this? Would you use the exact same words and say it to them, look them in the eye, and ask for their opinion? Would they be happy to read this content, knowing that it was written by you?
  2. What value will this post add to the blogosphere? Will it help someone who needs to read it? Will it make a difference to someone’s life? Will your experience act like a preventive measure for someone else’s mistakes?
  3. Will you regret this post one year down the line? Will you regret being so vocal about the issue? Will you feel it was a trivial matter, and wonder why it ever bothered you in the first place?

If the answer to the first two questions is yes and the last one no, then go ahead and hit the publish button. If not, maybe you need to go hunt for a new blog post idea!


D for 2017

Wassup, happy readers! This post is written for the #AtoZChallenge, and this is the third year I’m participating in this challenge. Do keep cheering me on all through this month, as I’m hell-bent on scoring a hat-trick in 2017, at the age of 18! My theme for this year is : The Encyclopedia of Blogging Memories, Feelings and Lessons.

You can check out my #AtoZChallenge 2015 (Theme: Harry Potter and Hogwarts) and 2016 (Theme: Weird Words) posts, and support my awesomeness!

Here’s a special question for you to answer today: Share some ways that you use to combat the ‘to post or not to post’ dilemma of blogging. Do you follow the same strategy that I’ve mentioned above? Share your thoughts in the comments!

~The-Blogging-Curator

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33 Comments Add yours

  1. sanchthewriter says:

    It’s a fine line between sharing and over sharing, isn’t it? I have been pretty vulnerable on my blog but mindful at the same time that people like employers can find things. One rule I do have is that I’ll never write about others without asking them.

    Diamanté – Lifespan

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  2. UpwardSpiral says:

    You have lovely insight for someone so young! I agree with you wholeheartedly though, a little vulnerability is important because it helps readers connect with you!

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  3. I am pretty vocal in my Blog about my emotions, but never about a second person without their consent. When you become a little vulnerable you maybe able to connect with similar people who maybe going through the same.

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  4. psharmarao says:

    Interesting post, though I am very impulsive when I blog, I usually avoid the mebarassing stuff as a rule especially if it involves someone else other than me.

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  5. Oh I can’t think of a single personal blogger who hasn’t gone through this dilemma. Back when I started in 2006, I put my *everything* on my blog. Kids, my tears, happiness the envious, the snark and everything in between. With time I grew and the more folks from my real life read me, the more I shut down. Not all because I would be vulnerable but because they used that vulnerability to disrespect or hurt me. Then again, maybe it’s because Ive grown up myself that I don’t feel the need to share it on a public blog but journal it all instead.
    Good topic and guidelines! 🙂

    rads
    https://kowthas.me

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  6. dew cool says:

    That’s the like way we all have started the blogging to show our feelings to outer world.
    Get to learn a lot
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  7. There have been times when I’ve felt I’ve shared too much. And not just the happy stuff, but the sad stuff too. But to be frank, I don’t regret it. It’s not that it’s directly adding any value to the blogosphere as a whole, but if someone, somewhere is going through something similar, they might just feel they’re not alone, you know?

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  8. shraeblog says:

    Every posts you publish are internal monologue of every bloggers.
    Hesitation is the hearts grave.

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  9. Ramya says:

    Almost all bloggers go through this dilemma to what to share and what not. I remember my journey when intially sharing personal stuff on the world wide web was difficult. I kept it an anonymous blog for a year and then i gained confidence enough to puts my name there. So its a though decision for any, but i would say do what’s comfortable .

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  10. RamyaRao says:

    Mithila, while these tips are useful, personal blogs are full of anectodes and at times too personal, yes. Plus these include also to your social media accounts. I find it irritating when you share too many personal things online.
    All said and done, in the recent past I have shared personal things that I wouldn’t share otherwise, and those posts are so hard. Too little information wouldn’t make sense and too much information would be heaven for trouble.

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  11. pythoroshan says:

    True. There are many times when I stop writing midway and end up not publishing completed posts because I just wonder of the impact if certain people read it… Or whether it would be an issue years down the line.
    They remain dreams wiped away for the night.

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  12. swathishenoy says:

    Should I tell the world that my kid doesn’t like to eat ladyfingers and gentlemen’s toes? LOL 😀 You are funny!!
    And as for the post, it is amazing how you write with so much clarity!

    Doctors and Dentists

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  13. When it comes to deciding what to post, I follow my gut feeling. But those 3 questions are a decent guide

    Absolutely Amazing Alliteration

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  14. Shailaja V says:

    This is valuable for a number of reasons. It highlights the ‘Why’ you must blog while putting in perspective the ‘What’ you must blog about. It’s a tricky balance but as you say, if you can gently use your experiences to help another without hurting people close to you, I’d say go for it. I’ve spoken about my failures as a parent and of course my depression. If anything it’s endeared me to the readers, so always be authentic but yes also be circumspect about how much you share.

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  15. inquisitivegeet says:

    I am cautious when it comes to sharing about personal life on social media or blogosphere for that matter! I think like a hundred times before posting.. even if it’s something normal, I think twice before hitting a publish button! And you have touched the chords perfectly here, leaving nothing unsaid!

    Cheers
    BoisterousBee

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  16. Been there and done that! I feel so ashamed looking back at some of the ‘outbursts’ on my blog 😛 Now I think twice, no thrice, no a hundred times before hitting the publish button. You are helping newbies and veterans alike. You know that, don’t you? 🙂

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  17. Modern Gypsy says:

    You’ve nailed the hammer on the nail with your questions! The line between sharing and over-sharing can get blurred sometimes; it’s always a good idea to think before hitting the publish button.

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  18. Vidya Sury says:

    I have no dilemma! But I see what you mean. Sometimes it is Too Much Information by people. The three tips are a great start. Because once you put something out there, there’s no turning back! That said, I never post anything I am not comfortable with my family reading! Hugs, Mithila! You da Guru!

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  19. Neha says:

    I don’t worry if its positive or negative because blogosphere is a place where you are not judged. But I certainly wonder if it violates anyone’s privacy before hitting the publish button.

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  20. That’s true…I call it the abuse of social media. The sense of not knowing where to stop sharing personal information is unbelievable.
    Your pointers are quite valid, if we would consider the impact of a post before publishing we could save so many hassles!

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  21. In spite of the fact that we live in an era where content marketing, search engine optimization, and business blogging are dominant, personal blogs still rock. There is something about them that keep one grounded, as if serving as a reminder of what blogging was all about back in the day. Whether you’re a blogger for hire, a pro-blogger, a content marketer, or whatever you want to call yourself, if you’ve got a personal blog, good on you! There’s one question that has always been at the center of personal blogging, though; that is, how much sharing is too much? Personal bloggers, after all, are called “personal” for a reason. As opposed to business-focused blogs, personal blogs reveal (more) details about the writer’s life. It is what makes a blog in this niche stand out – the personality and personal details of the writer. It is what creates a community and even friendships. While you may be writing to share your experiences – from travels to food to personal issues to milestones in life – there might be details that may be better left alone.

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  22. Shirley Corder says:

    Yes, very good post. I often think these sort of thoughts when I read some of the posts on Facebook especially. I wonder what the kids feel about it. Or how the writer will feel next year. Thank you. https://shirleycorder.com/determine/

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  23. lissa says:

    my way to decide whether to post something is simply whether I, as a reader, would like read such a post. I make myself the audience, I know people say you should consider your audience but I think that is only if you’re making money from your blog. and also, if I do regret posting something, I simply revert that post into a draft, problem solved, well, sort of.

    have a lovely day.

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  24. I sometimes feel that I share too much. But at the same time, someone tells me that they could connect with my post, that it made them smile or helped them in someway and then I am happy. A lot of times I go on a guilt trip of having said a lot of things!
    Mithila, are you really just 18?

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  25. Love the opening quote! As for me and the post or not to post question, I usually have a cool off period before I post a piece. If I still think it should be posted after the cool off period it goes live. Great post. Thanks for sharing.

    A – Z: D for
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    Shari

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  26. My Era says:

    Those three questions make for a great guideline to all personal bloggers caught up in the dilemma of how much is too much. Luckily though, I am never caught wondering what to write and what not, because the day I started my blog, I had decided to share my life, unedited (that’s my blog’s tagline from day #1) and that’s exactly what I do, even six years later.

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  27. Shilpa Garg says:

    Yes, there have been times when I have deleted draft posts because I felt that I was oversharing or that it wouldnt mean much to anybody else. I believe in sharing what’s comfortable and does not create any hassles for anybody.

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  28. Good questions to ask about whether to post something or not. I have few drafts that I ended up deleting, but not many. =)

    ~Patricia Lynne aka Patricia Josephine~
    Story Dam
    Patricia Lynne, Indie Author

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  29. Louise says:

    Early on in my blogging life I came to realize that blogs are rather like our “hope pages” – they are our dreams and ambitions – the stuff we aspire to – put to paper (or cyberspace in this case). I like the intentionality of it – that step so many take through blogging to filling some gap. I think that’s why many people blog.

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  30. I have been debating for awhile about the dilemmas of a newbie blogger: what to share, how much to share, whether someone will like to read this, what opinions should be kept to ourselves and what can be declared online without repercussions. This post gives some handy tips:) Keep going strong!
    D for Doula:A hand to hold on your most important day

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  31. Okay, maybe I’m the wrong person to comment about this topic, but still try and stop me 😛

    I’m pretty open about almost everything in my life and that is the same way I put it out on my blog. The positives and negatives both. Because if you are willing to talk about your life, you cannot edit out a few details. I don’t know if people will benefit reading it, but it does make me feel good to put it down somewhere and get it out of my system. Of-course I can write it in a book too and let it go, but someone putting it on my blog helps. People who know me understand the phase I’m going through and reach out to help. The support is immense too.

    I used to talk about people a lot before. I still do, but it was way too much earlier. Mostly about family and relatives who I hate. I used to just write whatever I feel and do not care about what they feel when they read it. I still don’t care about what those people think, but I somehow feel that my blog is more precious now to have their morons mentioned in any post. But, there are some people who somehow manage to make connections with my post and create problems in my circle. That I ignore.

    Dreams or nightmares, if I want to write about it, I will. Just like the way it is.

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  32. BellyBytes says:

    YOu need a lot of courage to wear your heart on your sleeve

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  33. Rajlakshmi says:

    Although I enjoy reading all the interesting tidbits about bloggers, but don’t think I would share that online. Not the bad ones too as I want my blogs to be always positive. I want readers to leave my blog with a smile 🙂

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